To communicate or not to communicate, that is the question. How often do you stop short of saying "exaclty" what you have on your mind. You think it will hurt someone's feelings, or you think it's mean and you should be more tactful. Well the truth is -- saying the truth, and yes that includes saying "no" when you want to, should be a routine and powerful communication tool for all people.
How did we ever get to this point where we are afraid of how others will act when we tell them the truth.
Well, I maintain that if you say it with kindness, use the proper planning and submit your thoughts with honesty and respect, the rest will take care of itself.
Taking the time to do the following will enhance your success rate:
1. Identify the who. Who is bothering you?
2. What are they doing or saying to bother you?
3. Make an appointment to talk to the person, try to make a neutral spot and time when you can state your case calmly and gently.
4. Tell the person what they do that is not alright with you.
5. Ask them to change or stop their behaviour.
6. State the consequences of their not stopping or changing their behaviour.
I know you might be saying to yourself that this seems kind of complicated, and there's too much work in order to get more peace in your life. Well, i'm here to suggest that your life will improve dramatically if you can do the above. Afterall, it's the simple, seemingly benign, small things in our life that drive us crazy, isn't it? Are you willing to let these things pile up on you until you explode and "can't take it anymore"? That seems a tad unfair to those you love. They too deserve the benefit of a clear communication around things they do which are not ok with you. Think about it and try a few things. If you are so inclined or want to talk more, just click on the "comments" section at the end of this blog and let us know how you feel or how it went......... there's always strength in numbers!
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